It's a huge adjustment to shift from spending two or three hours a night to spending all day together, says author and psychologist Robert Bornstein. "It happens all at once. It would be nice to go from full-time to half-time to quarter-time, but that's not how it works." "Take the normal stress of a transition into retirement," says Maselli, "and throw in the fact that your wife can't stand seeing you all day." People are working with financial planners to make sure that they will have enough money to retire.
Issues for couples
After 30 or 40 years of family routine, juggling work, child rearing and individual interests, a couple's quality time together might have averaged an hour or two a day. Now, suddenly, they're in each other's company all or most of the time. Adjusting to that change is more difficult than many expect.
That’s an easy question to answer – it would be failing to discuss and negotiate a mutually acceptable game plan for retirement living.
Many couples dream of being joined at the hip when they're no longer working. A more satisfying approach may be 'parallel play.'